I am long overdue in writing a blog post. It is close to 7 months since that fateful day. It has been an unbelievably difficult journey ……too difficult to write about at times. So here’s the Tracy scoop:
- Tracy is still at Toronto Rehab’s Lyndhurst hospital.
- She is learning to use her motorized wheelchair using a sip and puff controller – not without its challenges but she is very determined.
- Tracy sold her house and purchased a modest bungalow near Lawrence and Don Mills that she is planning to renovate and make accessible. The move out will happen at the end of the school year.
- Tracy has had on/off medical issues – and she continues to experience quite a bit of pain.
- Tracy has been out of Lyndhurst several times, and is learning how UN-accessible the world really is.
The boys: Lynn hired two excellent caregivers for the boys – Leslie who is full-time during the week and Beverly for the weekends. She finally packed up her little Prius and drove to Chicago last week so that she could fly to Phoenix for some serious R & R before heading back to St. Louis to resume her life.
Lynn sacrificed so much for our family! She left her life in St. Louis for almost 7 months to care for Christian, Malcolm and Thomas. They did so well under her watch and they’ll really miss her. Thank you big sister!!! xo
“Layers” & Lessons
What I know is that Tracy learning to live as a quadriplegic is only a small part of the challenges we have faced and continue to face. The dynamics of our family are forever changed and changing. There are multiple “layers” to this conversation and within each of them – they too are multifaceted. My nephews without their mother; our mother not living in her home and away from her husband; Lynn who gave up close to seven months of her life to live away from her family and take care of someone else’s kids; my Dad at their home in Ottawa alone and trying to run a business; me – the only one who actually lives in Toronto juggling full-time job, teenage daughter, husband, home; finances/fund/fundraising; and the ongoing worry of all things Tracy; etc…
Selfishly I feel I have lost my mother as I knew her, my father as I knew him and my daughter has lost the grandparents she once knew. They are forever consumed – changed, ripped and torn apart at the pain & suffering of their baby. I don’t ever want to imagine what it feels like, as I only have my sweet Abigail, but I am one of the able-bodied daughters and the sister, so my perspective is different.
Emotions run high, and there is strife. People don’t talk to each other. There are arguments and disagreements. There are short tempers and tears. Feelings are hurt. Words are used like daggers that can’t be taken back. Healing and forgiveness seem so distant. Guilt sets in …
….but I can move.
It continues to amaze us all at the overwhelming generosity of people! People, who most often do not even know Tracy, yet go out of their way to help her. Some of those people include:
- Sandra Dower – for doing Tracy’s hair on a regular basis!!
- Michael Carmichael and Universal Motion for lending Tracy an accessible van – on several occasions.
- Peter Grande for for lending Tracy an MV-1 purpose built accessible van – several times and especially for the drive to Collingwood.
- Crestwood Upper and Lower School for Christian and Thomas’s bursaries.
- Christina Kaufman and Gears Toronto for the Spin that Tracy was able to attend on Thursday January 26th.
- Cindy Drohan, Gail McGregor and Macpherson Homes for the Silpada Jewelry Fundraiser at the Orchard at Craigleith on Saturday February 4
- Beverley Daniels for her February photo shoot fundraiser
- Marsha Hamilton, Marlene and Jeff Stubbins and the entire school community at St. Clements Early Learning School for their February fundraiser
- Mona Harrison, Leigh-Anne Copp, Tammy Comish, Ashlynn Band and the Craigleith Ski Club for Craigleith Ladies Day on March 2 – Tracy was able to be a guest of honour.
- Bedford Park Moms for their Suppersolved Meal
- Brianne Stewart and Bryn Copp for their “Caring Motivating Tracy” t-shirt fund raiser.
- Wesley Kwong from Barefoot Wine for donating wine and bubbly for our fund raisers.
- Milton Davis and his team at Davis Moldaver LLP for their advice and counsel.
- Robert’s colleagues at 6S Marketing for the work they are doing on a much improved web site.